Hello 2016. Nice to meet you.
Lots of things happen at the beginning of the year. But why this time of all 365 days?
— A simple answer would be because that is just what you do on January 1. I am having a tough time this year accepting the beginning of the year as “THE TIME or DAY.” My little brain has been twisting and turning about what makes this time so different than any other time period through out the year. Probably over analyzing, but I think it is important to address both sides of the spectrum. Let the conversation begin.
What I’m (over) thinking about…
On one hand, I think it is necessary and important to have goals established. After discussions with multiple people, it is evident that setting goals allows you to work towards something and address the gray area between point A and B. Having a direction to follow and accountability to sustain – this helps accomplish your goals. But what about that gray area I just mentioned. The actual floor plan. I feel it is this area that gets lost and forgotten. This is why I bring up the conversation of goals and the beginning of each calendar year.
Goals are good. Really good. BUT in order to saturate yourself in the goal process, I think we need to focus more on the process instead of the outcome. The [ floor plan-gray area-process ] is the important part, not the goal itself. This process is so incredibly individualized – but it brings a perfect balance of conversation and challenge towards the gray area within the goal setting experience. The floor plan should keep you honest, accountable and rewarded.
Don’t just set a goal(s) because. Set goals because you have a plan and you want to.
With every position comes opposition – why we will address the other side of goal setting. Setting goals just because.
As we approach the end of each calendar year, we tend to find ourselves promising to do certain things that we might not consider at different times of the year. Goals within … PHYSICAL — weight loss, nutrition, body image, etc.
RELATIONSHIP — listening, date nights, personal time, etc.
PROFESSIONAL — promotion, salary, title, etc.
FINANCIAL — saving, budgeting, planning, etc.
PERSONAL — self talk, organization, explore, etc.
SPIRITUAL — church, pray, action, etc.
The bullet list within these could go on and on as does life. Our life choices made each day are decided on some intention within. This is not a blog post about starting over and making things “actually” happen based on a promise(s) you make on 1.1.2016. This is a blog post focusing on continuity and working hard every day. Why choose January 1 to finally start exercising, eating right, communicating, accomplishing a tasks they’ve put off, taking a vacation/personalized time with friends and family, or even pampering yourself a bit more (which should happen often anyway)? I’m guilty – I have done it for several years past. Why though? Why the first calendar day of each year THE DAY of all 365 days for change is beyond me. Maybe it is easy to hop on the band wagon of motivation, maybe it is the “right thing to do,” societal pressure, maybe it is just what you do. I don’t know everything, but what I do know is that most people have the opportunity to make decision and choices freely.
This above quote really struck a cord. Allow yourself to keep your fuel fired throughout the year. Avoid that imaginary New Year’s Day goal setting national holiday and embrace it throughout the year. There are 365 days to take advantage of, make each one count.
To conclude simply:
1. Setting (MEANINGFUL) goals is important and necessary. Allow yourself to learn through the process and be flexible.
2. Open up the conversation about taking advantage of the other 364 days to set goals. Don’t let one day restrain you from continuously setting goals — giving yourself opportunity to learn and grow through the challenges and successes experienced throughout.
3. The gray area is the focus. Your opportunity to build and work hard.
The scary part is not starting.
If this posts offends you, speak up. I’ve begun to vastly appreciate the process to talk opposition. I do hope you appreciate what my intent was behind all these words here: to acknowledge your opportunity to make each day count. Set goals frequently. Be flexible. Stay accountable. Work hard. Each and every day. Opportunity is always present. Take advantage of your present.